For some teens, strangulation is already part of their sexual experiences. The charts below compare reports of being strangled or strangling a partner across three age groups.

Women and girls Men and boys
Has been choked by a partnerLifetime
0%10%20%30%40% 11.94.414–1731.98.118–2440.617.525–29
Has been choked by a partnerIn the past year
0%10%20%30%40% 9.91.814–1728.55.318–2432.713.225–29
Has choked a partnerLifetime
0%10%20%30%40% 9.95.814–1719.120.418–2424.031.525–29
Has choked a partnerIn the past year
0%10%20%30%40% 7.71.814–1717.312.818–2417.326.225–29
United States. Ages 14–17: Herbenick et al., Sexuality Research and Social Policy (2026), among sexually experienced adolescents, n = 180. Ages 18–24 and 25–29: Herbenick et al., Archives of Sexual Behavior 54:3435–3469 (2025), n = 9,029. Both drawn from the same survey, the 2022 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, fielded December 2022 to January 2023.
Where they learned about it

Friends, pornography & partners

Where they first learned about it4,254 US university students
From friends35.1%
From pornography34.5%
From a partner30.1%

Students could name more than one source.

How old they were the first time4,242 US college students

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of the college students who had been choked said the first time happened between the ages of 10 and 17 — before college started.

Where they first learned about it. Herbenick, Fu, Miller et al., Sexuality Research and Social Policy (2025). 4,254 students at a large US public university. Students could name more than one source.

Age at first experience. Herbenick et al., Archives of Sexual Behavior (2022). 4,242 US college students, about 40% of whom had experienced choking during sex.

The force required isn’t a lot

Less force than
opening a can.

The carotid arteries carry blood to your brain. It takes less force to close them than to pull open the tab on this can.

A can that has been opened, the tab pulled back
11lb

To close the carotid arteries. A person can lose consciousness within seconds.

20lb

To pull open the can’s tab. Nearly twice as much force.

Force Facts

1 can · 12 fl oz1 serving

Amount per can

Force to open20 lb

% of one can *

The jugular veins close4 lb20%
The carotid arteries close11 lb55%
Opening this can20 lb100%
The windpipe closes33 lb165%

* Percent of the force it takes to open this can.

These figures are not safe limits. There is no safe amount of force to use.

How quickly it can happen

Seconds matter.

These times come from medical research compiled by the Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention. They are averages, not a predictable sequence. Symptoms can happen sooner.

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  1. 0sPressure is applied to the neck. The carotid arteries are occluded and blood stops reaching the brain.
  2. 5–10sLoss of consciousness. The reported average is 6.8 seconds.
  3. 10–30sPetechiae — small red spots on the face or in the eyes, where capillaries have burst.
  4. 11–17sAnoxic seizure. This timeline marks it at 14 seconds.
  5. 15sLoss of bladder control. Fifteen seconds is the reported minimum.
  6. 30sLoss of bowel control. Thirty seconds is the reported minimum.
  7. 62–157sRespiration ceases. The first of the 14 patients described in the research stopped breathing at 62 seconds; all 14 had stopped by 157 seconds.

By the time a partner notices that someone has stopped responding, they have already lost consciousness. There is no safe way to choke someone. This is not a countdown to a safe stopping point. Stopping before any of these times does not make strangulation safe.

Not as advertised

What you’ve
heard.

What’s actually true.

What you’ve heard

“It’s just choking.”

What’s actually true

It’s strangulation.

What you’ve heard

“It’s safe if you do it right.”

What’s actually true

There’s no safe way.

What you’ve heard

“No marks, no harm.”

What’s actually true

No marks means no marks.

What you’ve heard

“They said yes, so it’s consent.”

What’s actually true

A yes doesn’t mean you’re not responsible for harm caused.

What you’ve heard

“They felt fine after, so they’re fine.”

What’s actually true

Some of it shows up later.

Where it came from

Nobody chose this on their own

Get help today if any one of these are true

  • They passed out, even briefly, or cannot remember part of it
  • Breathing feels different
  • It hurts to swallow, or swallowing is hard
  • The voice is hoarse, raspy or deeper
  • The neck hurts or is tender
  • Vision has changed — spots, flashes, blurring
  • Ringing ears or changed hearing
  • Headache, dizziness or lightheadedness
  • Small red spots in the eyes or on the face
  • Loss of bladder or bowel control

Call 911 if they are unconscious, having trouble breathing, confused, weak or numb on one side, seizing, or showing signs of stroke.

Use the word strangled

Say “I was strangled,” rather than only describing a sore throat. Tell the clinician what you remember: how long it lasted, whether you passed out — even for a few seconds — and whether a belt, rope, or another object was used.

“I was strangled during sex. There was pressure on my neck and I think I passed out for a few seconds. Can you check me for strangulation injuries?”

When someone reports strangulation and has any of the primary warning signs (left), the recommended test is a CT angiogram of the blood vessels in the neck. Often, plain X-ray and ultrasound scans are not adequate for this.

If symptoms start or get worse later, go back, even if they were already seen. Swelling can develop hours and even days later, and a stroke from a torn artery can follow after days or weeks.

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